Learn How to Say No

The importance of saying No

When someone ask you a favor, you may simply reply yes. You may say yes to every opportunity that opens to you. You feel like you have to always please other people, and you scarify your time and energy. Have you thought of why it is hard to say no and what’s the importance of please everyone? Have you ever felt tired and stressed if you say no? Maybe the reason why we say yes automatically, because they are our family, friends, employee, parent, etc. also, if I say no, this makes them unpleasant, angry, hurtful, unkind, or rude, they may think of me is selfish. If you always say yes, you may not have enough time and energy to enjoy the things you like to do. Thus, you end up too much stuff to do in your life. the most importance of saying no is have more balanced lives and relationships.

Benefits of saying no

Know your feelings and needs

 It is better to pause, and listen to your voices, your voice are important than others. You are the centre of your life, you are the author of your live experience. No one can take control of it. If you don’t know about your feelings and needs. It will cause conflicts in your life. It will make you feel exhausted and anxious. Listen to your voice before you reply to someone. It may seem selfish, but it creates some room between your work and personal life. You won’ get overwhelmed at the end of day.

Take good care of yourself

When you are asked to do something for someone, please take a moment to listen to your feelings and body. Your body are the first sign of your health. What is your body reaction? Headache, tiredness, or other physical reaction. It may be helpful to listen to your body, as this is helpful to take things slow down. When you take time to take care of your body, your body guide you to have a rest. It is okay to say no or refuse someone’s invitations. If you don’t take care of yourself, how would you take care of your other people? self-care is much more important than others, when you feel tire and unambitious. Thus, listen to your body’s signal.

Always ask yourself question

We always respond yes without thinking. However, have you ever asked yourself question if this is worth to do so? If not, why would you say yes. How do you feel if you always say yes to someone else? Is this really worth it? Do I really want to do it? If you make a habit to say yes without thinking, it will prevent you to hear your deep feelings and know what you really want in the life.

Saying no doesn’t mean you refuse everything

Do you know if you say no to something, you maybe open another opportunity to say yes to other people. Take some time to respond to other people’s request, because you open the opportunity to so something you prefer. This could be your leisure activities, such as go for a walk, spend time with family, go to gym, or have a nice dinner with friends or families.

Start by saying no to little things

Before you accept the invitation, we can take a breath and check in with our feelings if this is what we really want it. If it is yes, it means this is our true voice; if it is no, that is a practice to decline others’ invitation. It is a sustainable way to build healthy relationship with others. Thus, maybe we can start to practice saying no to little things. Such as telemarketers, social invitations, sales in the mall. As we become more authentic and know what we want, we will be the centre of our life. The more you practice you decline, the better equipped you will be in your life.

How to say No effectively

1.     Be direct, such as “no, I can’t”

2.     Don’ lie. Lying may lead to guilt, this is we always trying to avoid.

3.     Be polite, like saying “thanks for asking”

4.     Don’t say I will think about it. As people always have opportunity to invite you next time. It may make you more stressful when say this.

5.     Set boundaries priotize the most important stuff in your life, then you will know what you need to do in your life.

6.     Be selfish: it is okay to say no. you much important than how much you could do for other people.

Learning how to say no has become the most effective way to control ourselves and know our feelings. As this brings you a sense of freedom and empowerment, it is critical to learn to say no.

References:

https://tinybuddha.com/blog/stop-saying-yes-want-say-no/

https://mytherapynyc.com/importance-of-saying-no/

https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/why-saying-no-is-necessary-for-good-health